Recurring memories that disturb you can be stopped. They can be prevented from automatically recurring without your intention to recall them. These memories can be thought about whenever you wish to remember them for your own reasons, and without distress.
Sometimes you blame yourself. If you blame yourself for the issues raised by these memories, it is essential to forgive yourself.
Stopping the repeated and involuntary recall of disturbing memories requires understanding the issues being raised by these memories. Attempting to suppress or modify these memories will not work. The goal is to be able to recall these memories only whenever you wish to, and without being disturbed by them. This happens when the issues that the memories point to have been addressed, you no longer blame yourself or others for the content of these recollections, and you have allowed yourself to grieve. Blaming yourself may not be an issue, nor blaming others; and there may be no need for grief, but if any of these possible factors exist, and they remain unaddressed, the memories will continue as they have.
If you are having repeated and involuntary recall of disturbing memories, you have unfinished business.
There are many possible issues. There can be fear of being unfairly blamed; there can be fear of experiencing again the events remembered; you may be failing to let go of anger or various other destructive feelings; and there are others.
Concentrating on the memories, one at a time, will reveal the issues. Grief must be faced and resolved. No issue can be buried. Everything about these disturbing memories must be clearly realized.
A spiritualist once told me this: "We don't wish to purge memories. We wish to not feel badly when we think of them. We do this by accepting that what occurred, did occur. We forgive ourself and anyone else involved. We let go of the bad feeling after we see why we feel bad. We no longer need the bad feeling. We fix ourself. Then, we no longer feel the upset. We are healed when we no longer feel the upset."
The unintended recurrence of disturbing memories is stopped by this work. If you are asked to recall some horrible event, you can do it, and probably with great accuracy; but when your work is done, such memories never occur unless you try to remember them. There is then no unconscious activity of such memories to invade your dreams. When the events are fully known, they are not disturbing anymore. Any bad feeling, like fear, embarrassment, guilt, resentment, or whatever makes these memories disturbing is dismissed when properly addressed.
The work is well worth doing. You are then truly free of being bothered by the past. Nothing is suppressed. No memory is reinvented. If you ever blamed yourself, you have forgiven yourself. In many cases you may never have blamed yourself. These events no longer contribute to your personality, attitudes, or beliefs. They are no longer who you are.
Chapter 1 - Violence and Feelings
Chapter 2 - Involuntary Memories
Chapter 5 - Achieving Tranquility
Chapter 8 - Cancelling Limitations
Chapter 12 - Staying In Your Higher Self
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